A few days ago I presented the new book of Javier Urra. Today I would like to comment on a recently published interview in El País, in which you answer some questions from worried parents.
A mother explains that her work has a schedule that is really incompatible with the upbringing of her son and Mr. Urra responds with this pilgrim statement: "With love, time is relative".
Apart from being an affirmation that Einstein would like to see demonstrated if we take it literally, as a metaphor I still disagree with it. No, the time that children need is not relative, no matter how much affection we offer them in the few moments we can devote to them at dinner and in the bathroom, they will feel alone and will not grow with their primordial attachment figure at their side. In no way, those parents who should be separated from their children for as many hours as those explained by that mother are guilty. But do not minimize the importance of the amount of time for the value of "quality time".
Of course, if it is essential, let's compensate for the absence with a conscious and receptive presence, that time is little makes it more important to do so. But they need us and they need us present. Not in vain has a study recently been published that talks about the loneliness of Spanish children that I will talk about in a nearby topic.
It is essential, for your emotional health, that the concept of "conciliation"Change and the labor market is not a predator of the time that children need. If it is the market and production the priority of a society, its future will suffer. There is no better investment than the attention to children. Resign and settle with sentences and ideas like that don't do us any good.
Via | El Pais, Digital Interviews On Babies and more | New book by Javier Urra. What do our children hide? In Babies and more | Suspension in work-family conciliation and its consequences In Babies and more | Approved Plan Educa-3, to reconcile what? In Babies and more | The 10 commandments for family-work conciliation
